Too Embarrassed to See a Dentist? Here’s Why You Don’t Have to Be

Whether it’s been a few years or a few decades since your last dental visit, we’re here to offer compassionate care without judgment.

If you’ve been avoiding the dentist because you feel embarrassed, ashamed, or afraid of being judged, you are not alone. Millions of people struggle with these same feelings. At The Dental Anesthesia Center in St. Louis, we specialize in helping patients just like you feel safe, supported, and comfortable every step of the way.

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Outstanding customer car for our 15 yrs old Autistic Granddaughter. Rebekah really helped put our minds and ease and helped us plan the next visit when it came to reservations we had on the cost of this treatment, and future ones. This is expensive, but worth it knowing they help special needs kids, teens and adults. Sedation dentistry team handle everything great!
Thank you Dr. Thoms and the team!!
Response from the owner:Thank you for your thoughtful review. We’re so glad our team could provide a supportive and reassuring experience while helping you plan for future care. It means a great deal to know you felt informed and cared for every step of the way. We truly appreciate your kind words and the trust you’ve placed in us.
Dr Thoms specializes in dental anesthesia for patients with Special Needs. My daughter has been a patient of his for many years.
His experience, depth of knowledge and understanding the needs of Special Needs patients is excellent.
He presents clear and detailed information for his procedures and treatment options along with expectations during aftercare.
Follow up instructions include a personal phone call from him as well as additional calls from his office staff. I highly recommend Dr Thoms and definitely give him 5 stars.
Response from the owner:Thank you for your kind words and for taking the time to share your experience. We’re grateful for the trust families place in our team and are committed to providing thoughtful, individualized care with clear communication every step of the way. Your recommendation means a great deal to us!
My hygienist, DeLaina Joost, takes excellent care of my teeth with her advanced skills, gentle touch and great “chair side” manner. She is a consummate professional, and such a compassionate person. I look forward to my visits at DAC!
Response from the owner:Thank you for your kind words! We’re so glad to hear you had a positive experience with our team and appreciate you taking the time to share your feedback.
I want to thank everyone at the Dental Anesthesia Center for taking care of me yesterday—Meaghan helped me get the forms filled out correctly and in on time, Daisy for guiding me in and getting me out safely, Dr. Hoffman for taking care of my teeth and dealing with my really terrible gag reflex, and EVERYONE who helps make this happen. I don't know all of your names, but I do know that it takes all of you working together to make my dental care possible and have good results.

I'm always nervous when I first arrive, even though every procedure has had a good outcome. I've never had any pain or excessive bleeding as a result. The one thing I realized yesterday is that all of you are warm, friendly, positive, you have what is called a good vibe, which helps me a great deal.
Response from the owner:Thank you for your kind words and for taking the time to share your experience. We’re so glad our team could help you feel comfortable and supported throughout your visit. Providing a safe, positive environment is very important to us, and your feedback means a great deal. We truly appreciate your trust in our care!
Dr. Thoms and his entire staff at The Dental Anesthesia Center have been absolutely wonderful!! They're all so kind and knowledgeable. I would give them 10 stars if I could!!!
Response from the owner:Thank you so much for your kind words! We truly appreciate you taking the time to share your experience. It means a lot to hear this feedback.

Why People Avoid the Dentist Due to Embarrassment

There are many personal, emotional, and even traumatic reasons why people avoid the dental chair. Some of the most common include:

  • Haven’t seen a dentist in years and feel ashamed of the condition of your teeth.
  • Fear of being judged or lectured about their oral hygiene.
  • Dental anxiety or past traumatic experiences with dental providers.
  • Sensitive gag reflex, medical conditions, or special needs that make dental visits more complicated.
  • Embarrassment about bad breath, tooth decay, or missing teeth.

These feelings are very real—and incredibly common. But avoiding care only allows problems to worsen, making future appointments even more stressful. That’s why we approach every patient with empathy, privacy, and respect.

You Deserve Judgment-Free Dental Care

At The Dental Anesthesia Center, we don’t just clean teeth—we care for people. Our mission is to make dentistry accessible, especially for those who’ve had negative experiences or special concerns.

Here’s how we help you overcome embarrassment and reclaim your health:

  • Private, quiet treatment rooms designed for comfort.
  • One-on-one consultations where you can share your concerns without pressure.
  • Gentle, respectful communication—we meet you where you are.
  • Customized treatment plans tailored to your comfort and goals.

We understand that every mouth tells a story. No matter where you’re starting from, we’re here to help you move forward.

How Sedation Dentistry Can Ease the Fear and Shame

If dental anxiety or shame has kept you from getting the care you need, sedation dentistry may be the solution. As St. Louis’ trusted leader in sedation and sleep dentistry, we offer options that make your visit completely stress-free:

  • Oral Sedation
    • A safe, prescription medication you take before your appointment to help you relax and feel at ease.
  • IV Sedation
    • Stronger sedation that allows you to remain responsive but calm, with little memory of the procedure.
  • General Anesthesia
    • For patients with severe dental phobias, special needs, or complex cases, we offer complete anesthesia administered by our in-house anesthesiologist.

These techniques enable us to complete multiple treatments in a single visit, allowing you to make significant progress without the need for numerous appointments.

You’re Not Alone—And You’re Not “Too Far Gone”

We’ve helped thousands of patients who once believed their dental problems were “too bad to fix.” Many told us they felt hopeless—until they walked through our doors. You don’t have to fix everything at once. You need to take the first step.

Whether you need a gentle cleaning, full mouth rehabilitation, or just someone to listen—we’re here for you.

Ready to Start Fresh? We’ll Walk With You.

If embarrassment has held you back from seeing a dentist, let us help you change that story. Our entire team is committed to compassion over criticism and healing over judgment.

📍 Located in Clayton, MO, The Dental Anesthesia Center serves St. Louis and surrounding communities with expert sedation dentistry for adults, children, and special needs patients.

Take the First Step—No Pressure, No Shame

Your comfort and dignity come first. Call us today at (314) 862-7844, or request an appointment online—and experience what dental care should feel like.

Updated: August 21, 2025